How to Take a Break from the Social Media Limelight

by Nancy Marmolejo on December 21, 2009

in Social Networking

This past year has been fascinating as social media not only put more voices and visions out into the world, but also catapulted a number of people from relative obscurity to the limelight.

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Not everyone is cut out to do the limelight 24-7, so what do you do when you need a little break?

  • Should you pre-schedule Tweets during an anticipated absence to make it look like you’re still in the mix?
  • Should you simply log off and not bother telling anyone anything?
  • Should you send everyone a note that you’ll be offline for a bit?

There’s no right or wrong answer here, but what’s really key is that consider how you’ll deal with an absence.

Earlier this year a well known social media expert “went dark” for a week or two and wrote a very heartfelt post to her blog forewarning her followers of it. She got amazing support from her peeps and in the long run it was a wonderful, healthy example of balance.

I recently got a note from a friend who went offline over most of the past 2 months due to an illness. She put herself and her health first and didn’t make any qualms about it. I loved how she did this and came back with a beautiful re-entry. There was no forewarning, life just happened and she focused her energy on the rebound.

The last few months created huge amounts of stress in my personal life with my husband going into the hospital for 3 weeks and ALL responsibilities of home and business falling on my shoulders. I greatly reduced the amount of time I spent on social media networks because I was wrestling alligators nonstop. My message to myself is the one I apply to just about every aspect of life where I’m feeling pressure: “I’m doing the best I can with what I have.”

I’m very fortunate I have smart systems in place that Tweet my blog posts, so as long as my blog had content lined up, I got at least a daily Tweet in some weeks.But then I wondered… what if I disappeared for a month? Would anyone notice?

A wise person once told me, “The world isn’t nearly as obsessed with you as you are.”

The holidays are upon us. Maybe you’re stressing out how to do turkeys and presents and gift exchanges and Tweets and Facebook and on and on.Maybe you’re dealing with personal issues that make social media pale in importance.

If you’ve followed my tips for a while, you know that there are some really easy tools to use to make life easier like Social Oomph, Twitterfeed, or HootSuite. Try those if gentle automation feels in integrity with you.

Maybe you’d like to send out a “hey I’m outta here for a couple weeks” note to your list and social media network.

Or maybe you’d just like to go AWOL and not bother with what people think.

Ultimately the choice is yours. But looking at this as an option and considering what you’d do if in that situation can bring ease to a worried mind and help you put the really important things in life first.

What are your thoughts?

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  • nimia_a
    Thanks for sharing this post. I've got a new idea from you especially during this season.
  • I'm glad you got a new idea out of it! Thanks!
  • Thank you for a very timely article. I have found that unplugging from time to time is a way for me to nurture myself and practice self-care. Living in balance and alignment is a personal life choice and allows me to show up fully for my family and clients.
    Earlier this year I unplugged for several months to embrace wholeness. doing so enhanced both the lesson and the journey. Thank you for the resources you mentioned. I am interested in the automation of tweeting my blog.
  • I'm so glad you are bringing this topic up, Nancy, as I just went through the same set of questions and decisions before I took off for a bit more than 3 weeks; first to celebrate my birthday at the end of November, and the rest to simply continue the celebration of life in a big way, which took me to the South of Spain.

    As I wrestled with the decisions of should I or should I not tell my audience, Facebook Friends, Twitter, etc.; I chose just to tell a hand-full of folks what I was doing and why..and the rest, I left up to Hoot Suite and one of my faithful VA's to continue to post Tweets for upcoming programs, etc.; as I felt being MIA all together was not my style, and at the end of the day, the show must go on. Good thing I did, though, as I travelled thru remote locations where being Internet-connected was not an option. It was also very freeing NOT to even think about what all else was going on in the Social Media sphere. I could count on the fact that it will all be there when I got back...and it was!
  • That's a great "gentle automation" backup plan Ali. I'm so glad you were able to enjoy your trip AND keep your business running for you. Congrats to you and thanks for the comment!!
  • Nancy, this is very timely and for many social media users this will be the first Christmas/Holiday season to decide - do I tweet or not? Plus, other things in life can hit you and cause you to take unexpected breaks. I had decided I would simply make a post to wish everyone a happy holiday and see you in the new year. We all need a break sometime!
  • Kathy, that's a great plan. If more of us talk about unplugging, it makes it easier for others to follow suit. The holidays give us a perfect reason to enjoy the season.
  • Nancy -- what I like most about this post is that you acknowledge the options and make no judgments about one being the "right" answer. If only some other social media experts recognize that everyone is going to use social networks differently...and so there is no one right way to do anything! (automation, ghost-tweeting, auto-DMs, etc.)

    Personally -- I'd just go offline and not worry about it. I do have the automation in place so I'm tweeting my blog as well as the blogs of my valued experts -- so my readers are still getting useful info in my absence. I have no illusions that they'll miss "me" while I'm gone ;)

    I hadn't heard about your hubby's hospitalizations...hope everything is all right or at least getting better!
    Terri Z
  • thanks Terri, and I wholeheartedly agree that there is no one right way to do anything! Too many people are stressing out with the "have to's" and losing touch with the joy. Thanks for your comments and also for your well wishes.
  • I recently took some time away from "social media" to take a personal trip. Nancy, you know about it as we chatted when I got there. I decided not to login to Facebook or Twitter. It was the first time in 3-years I've been able to break away and with my team and systems in place, I knew that my clients would be well served in my absence.

    At first, I felt guilty. But then I knew that getting back into the swing of things would be simple to do, so the guilt went away. Again, with automatic tools, systems and a team, we have no excuse not to take some time out for ourselves - and not have to tell the world about it.
  • Leesa, I'm right there with you. The times when we need a breather are when gentle automation strategies truly serve us and our followers. I love how you and i fly in tandem on these things!
  • This is a very timely article; thanks! I am sure I'm not the only one wondering whether I will be able to maintain my social media streams during the coming weeks. As we're vacationing with friends, I plan to send out a "happy holidays to you, I'm taking a holiday from social media too" type message.
  • That's a great way to go and will give you a guilt free break! Enjoy your time away.
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